Welcome May.
As I have said before, and I’m certain I will say many times again, I think it’s so neat how we special parents take joy in the things that most other parents discourage. We know these “things” are typical, and every bit of typical that sneaks into our children’s behavior is bitter sweet. It’s bitter because it’s usually a typically perceived negative thing. It’s sweet because, it’s typical of children. It’s one more thing that won’t make him stand out glaringly different from the crowd. I love my children, just the way they are. If getting rid of Sam’s PDD-NOS would change his personality, I wouldn’t wish it away for anything in the world. But my heart aches for the potential differences that could separate him from his classmates. Children can be very cruel.
But once again, my very good friend Mr. Milestone stopped by. He had so many good visits with us in March & April that he decided to come for an extended stay in May! Yay!
So back to the celebration of discouraged behavior:
Let me set the scene. Brian, Sam & Max are playing on my bedroom floor, while I put laundry away. I walk into my room, and see Sam & Max full-on duking it out. Brian has to physically separate them. He has to pull them apart!
I stand there with the biggest smile on my face, my eyes water, overwhelmed by emotion.
I see my boys being real brothers for what seems like the first time. Fighting with each other. Not a one sided, stealth attack from Max. Fighting TOGETHER, with each other. Typical brotherly behavior.
A mother’s simple joy.
Whoever thought when I was younger, I would hear myself say, “It was one of the happiest days of my life, when I walked in and saw my children fighting!” It’s amazing what a little perspective will do for you.
Welcome May. Welcome growth & change. Welcome joy & wonder. Welcome.